A relationship has no script. We understand the perspective of a relationship the moment it has collapsed and that is when the voice of reason and logic knocks hard. The red flags that existed are unraveled.
“A red flag is a good intuitive image to help you process what you’re feeling,” explains psychiatrist Abigail Brenner. “At the end of a difficult relationship, people often say, ‘He or she told me who he or she was at the very beginning, but I just didn’t listen.'”
Relationships do not collapse due to abrupt bad luck but a systematic growth of certain characteristics first presented as red flags that were ignored. Here are the key red flags in a relationship that you ought not to ignore:
1. Lack of communication
Communication is the most important artifact of a relationship. Once it fades, it crops emotion and feelings. A good relationship has consistent mutual communication. No communication, no relation.
2. Lack of Trust
Constant engagement reveals the true character of a person. Through this, one can build trust or break it. Lack of trust causes severe relationship insecurities that are unhealthy in a relationship.
3. Your friends and family
It will be in limbo if the friends or family partner do not approve of your relationship. Your partner will have to take sides, which will corrupt their independent thinking; hence, the chance of the relationship’s survival is null.
4. Controlling behavior
If your partner attempts to “divide and conquer,” as Brenner puts it, “driving a wedge between you and other significant people in your life,” such as friends and family, this is a definite red flag. Your partner should not control where you go, who you associate with, or limit you.
5. Individual differences.
A good relationship is built on acceptance and embracement of goals and ambitions. Partners should support each other on short or long-term goals. A relationship is built on ”we’ and not ”I”. When the differences cannot be harmonized, the relationship is at the blink of collapsing since everybody will be focused on bettering themself regardless of the partner’s opinion. If they find another partner in the same line of thought, they are likely to move in together.
6. Self-trust
Weber states that the best thing about long-term commitment is having someone who knows you inside and out—and loves you anyway. Always accept criticism and find a way to better yourself as a person. A person whose character is mysterious hides many things; once exposed, they’re a threat to the relationship. You may have loved a person’s mirror character.
7. Temper
A person who cannot control their temper is like throwing a needle balloon. The ultimate answer is definite. Temper has emotional, psychological, and certainly physical effects. It’s not just a red flag but a well-scribed banner telling of walking out and never looking back.
